Wiring is basically how a system is set-up, how a certain system will process it's stimuli and then direct it to accomplish a certain goal.
My focus with this is the individual wiring of the people around you; and maybe how you are wired at your core... Some people call this the ego, or the subconscious.
Essentially, we are all wired from birth and through our socialization as we are taught by our parents or nurturers how to conduct ourselves in the modern world. Typically, it's the events in our early-childhood that will wire us into the adults that we are to become; and very rarely are two people ever wired exactly the same.
At it's core, you could say that your wiring is synonymous with your "rationale".
Ever seen someone over-react, become depressed for what seems to be no reason, become uncontrollably attached almost instantaneously to women/men, drugs, the drink, partying, pets, etc?
These are almost always reactions that are caused by the way we are wired as human-beings. (A = stimuli or something perceived, X = subconscious emotion, R = reaction). Something in our rationale, tells us A= X, and because X is rooted to a specific emotion (positive or negative) it will cause R... your reaction.
Ex. 1) You grew up as a sibling of many and, because of strained resources and over-worked parents, you never received much individual attention (or a close connection with your family members).
During socialization, this typically could cause the given person to feel a personal loneliness; and as socialization ends and young-adulthood begins you're subconsciously susceptible to become attached quickly to people who show you individual affection or interest (thus fulfilling the subconscious emotions of loneliness).
When, and if, this affection/interest is suddenly cut-off, the person will immediately feel a pang of resentment/negativity/anger/drop in self-esteem. Causing the person to react tangibly to others or to him/herself through one, or all, of the given emotions.
(So in this case 1. The positive stimulation from another will cause X = feelings of happiness, and being wanted. AND 2. The negative removal of this "positive" act causing X2 = feelings of loneliness, low self-esteem, anger, resentment)
You know these people, everyone knows someone who over-reacts terribly when [seemingly] small negative things happen to them.
If this is confusing, sorry. It's a little abstract and may take a read or two to understand.
So here's the point.
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HOW TO KNOW
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When you feel an overwhelming emotion, or when you observe this happening to someone else ask yourself. "WHY"
Why am I reacting this way?
-Because A happened... and it caused X. (Because this person did something that made me feel a certain way)
Okay, so why do I feel that way?
-because X causes me to feel a certain way and makes me react
Did the person who caused A do it to intentionally make me feel X, or was this person doing something for their own personal reasons?
-Probably not...
So why do I REALLY feel this way, and what REALLY made me react how I did?
-Only there will you really find your true answer. And it's an answer only you can truly find...
It's like a chemical equation... if the end-product isn't desired, then you need to change the equation.
If the emotions you're reacting to aren't desired, then maybe you have to question your own rationale and your own subconscious to "find the change you wish to see in YOUR world".
Much love
-Inspire
